Dreaming was easy when we were children. The world was a big playground; make-believing was effortless. As we grow older, we become exposed to failures, rejections and other hurdles that limit our dreams and sometimes, stop us from making them.
This revelation came as a surprise in a personal vision-setting workshop that I recently attended as a participant. After the workshop, I began taking note of my conversations with fellow women. It seemed rare to hear women talk about the future in the context of dreams. The future had become a tattered sketch of deadlines and due dates; of random dinner and coffee dates, and occasional trips here and there. Quite too often, women pause when asked what their dreams are—as if they left their futures gaping at their lives.
The good news is that it is never too late to start making dreams once again. Here are five easy ways to get ourselves back with enjoying the pleasure of dreaming and making them happen:
Begin with an image. It can be a mental image or a physical image rendered on a dream board or put together on Pinterest. Be as specific as possible. Afterwards, mentally experience the dream as if you're once again a teenager who is daydreaming in class. The Secret author Rhonda Byrne writes, "Visualization is simply powerfully focused thought in pictures, and it causes equally powerful feelings."
2. "Pay your dream first."
Soulful Women coach Megan Hale expresses this way beautifully:
When you wake up to the world each day, there will be a pull from a million different things. If you never learn how to pay your dream first, it will never get the attention it deserves. Your dream is important. In fact, it's the MOST important thing in your whole world. The right dream holds all the keys to unlocking your fulfilment, happiness, pride, joy, success, and legacy. For something that holds so much, it should be placed front and center.
3. Invest in your self.
If you are to hire a chief executive of your dream company, what would be her qualifications? Build your capabilities to live up to your own standard. Invest in yourself. Take classes, join interest groups, travel, and take opportunities that will increase your value. As we are both the masters of our lives and the chief executives of our dreams, we have to make sure that we are best fit for the job.
4. "Fund" your dreams.
If I were to give advice to my 20 year-old self, it would have been, "INVEST FOR YOUR DREAMS." Twenty-somethings are prone to YOLO (You Only Live Once) and burn a month's pay check or a huge incentive on a crazy purchase that depreciate over time. If you find yourself in an eight-hour, five days-a-week job, you can try freelance projects if you have a specific skill to market, e.g. photography, hosting, and writing. Another option is to SAVE WISELY by placing your money in credible investments that will make it grow.
5. Protect your self and your dreams.
Your dreams are solely yours to fulfil. Nobody will pick them up and make them happen for you and your loved ones when you get sick or when you pass away early. Therefore, it is important to eat healthy, exercise, and have enough sleep. Availing life insurances that have investment or living benefits has proven value for many women who have been placed in this situation. These insurances offer the best of both worlds: protecting your self (and your family) and helping your "dream fund" grow.
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